For the Leader
When you as a leader realize that God is responsible for the results, you are freed from worry and false expectations. Demands on yourself to get results are silenced, and so are any demands for the trainee to shape up or change. Instead, you can concentrate on creating the best educational situation for growth to occur: developing trust and communicating acceptance and love.
If you do not rely on God to provide the results, you are in for trouble. There are only two other places to look for success. First, you can become self-oriented and pressured from within, trying to force people to grow or change through your help. Weighted down by this responsibility, you fall into worry about results or increasing self-doubts about your ability as a leader. This cycle of doubt and worry can lead up to become increasing self-absorbed and consequently less a servant.
Second, you can place responsibility for success on the one receiving your training. If you choose this course, what first seems like a great relief – at least is no longer up to you – will eventually leave you frustrated and exasperated. God has provided human beings with many inner resources to cope and change. Yet people broken by problems in life will not be able to pull themselves up by their own bootstraps, nor should you expect them to do so. The healing power of God is needed.
Trusting God to provide results means freedom for you, the leader. Yet freedom is not license. Ceasing to worry about results does not entitle you to not do your best. Although God provides the growth, being a good farmer is hard work. So is being a good leader. Your motivation and preparation is not diminished when you rely on God for the results; rather, your reliance on God gives you the guidance.
What makes a good trainer?
Warmth. This word implies caring, respecting, or possessing a sincere, nonsmothering concern for the trainee – regardless of his or her actions or attitudes. Jesus showed this when he met the woman at the well. Her morals may have been low, and he certainly never condoned sinful behavior. But Jesus nevertheless respected the woman and treated her as a person of worth. His warm, caring attitude must have been apparent wherever he went.
Genuineness. The genuine counselor is “for real” – an open, sincere person who avoids phoniness or the playing of some superior role. Genuineness implies spontaneity without impulsiveness and honesty without cruel confrontation. It means that the trainer is deeply himself or herself – not thinking or feeling one thing and saying something different.
Empathy. What does a trainee think? How does he or she really feel inside? What are the trainee’s values, beliefs, inner conflicts and hurts? The good trainer os continually sensitive to these issues, able to understand them, and effective in communicating this understanding (by words or gestures) to the trainee. This ability to feel with” the trainee is what we mean by accurate empathic understanding. It is possible to help people, even when we don’t completely understand, but the trainer who can empathize (especially near the beginning of training) is most likely to be effective as a lifestyle-trainer.
Other Important trainer characteristics. The good trainer, for example, is able to get along efficiently, having a relative absence of immobilizing conflicts, hang-ups, insecurities or personal problems. The effective trainer is also compassionate, interested in people, alert to his or her own feelings and motives, more self-revealing than self-concealing, and knowledgeable in the field of training. The Christian might summarize all of this by stating that the trainer must be loving.
Loving. Christianity’s lifestyle offers an approach to life which is based wholley upon love and thus is able to help where secular counseling fails? This raises a thought-provoking challenge for the Christian trainer: a basic way to help is to love – asking God to love needy people through us and asking him to make us more loving. The effective Christian trainer is loving. This is basic. But he or she also seeks to develop therapeutic characteristics and attempts to become proficient in the knowledge and use of basic training techniques.
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